The Joy Of Ex
    My boyfriend stays in touch with many exes, including one he was wild about who calls as his “friend” to tell him why I’m wrong for him. How do I know? He tells me. Can I ask him to put his past in the past? He tells me not to worry, but how can I not when she’s a woman with whom he had an intense sexual thing?                                          

—Disturbed

    As far as one’s current partner is concerned, there are three kinds of sex one’s had with one’s exes: Bad sex, boring sex and really bad, really boring sex. And then there’s your current partner, hanging up the phone and announcing: “Hey, just talked to my ex, the one I had all that mind-blowing sex with, who keeps insisting I can do better than you. And how was your day, Honey?” Sorry, but why is he telling you this? He’s immature? Insecure? Passive-aggressive? Or just a blithering idiot? You don’t tell a guy who he can talk to, but you can tell him what you do and don’t need to hear. Do that, and see whether he comes around — and with more than a “Why Your Girlfriend’s Not Good Enough” pie chart from his ex.

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   My boyfriend stays in touch with many exes, incluAfter my boyfriend moved in with me, he basically started “playing dead” when I made advances. I discovered he’s engaging in online sex chats. I’m thinking this is why he never had anything left for me. I asked him to leave, and he did. Now, he’s apologizing and begging me to take him back. Do you think he was just being greedy and feeling trapped by commitment? Or, do you think this is a serious addiction?
                                                                                 —Reconsidering

    {mosimage}As far as one’s current partner is concerned, there are three kinds of sex one’s had with one’s exes: Bad sex, boring sex and really bad, really boring sex. And then there’s your current partner, hanging up the phone and announcing: “Hey, just talked to my ex, the one I had all that mind-blowing sex with, who keeps insisting I can do better than you. And how was your day, Honey?” Sorry, but why is he telling you this? He’s immature? Insecure? Passive-aggressive? Or just a blithering idiot? You don’t tell a guy who he can talk to, but you can tell him what you do and don’t need to hear. Do that, and see whether he comes around — and with more than a “Why Your Girlfriend’s Not Good Enough” pie chart from his ex.

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