The Apostle Paul gave some similar advice in the New Testament book of Ephesians to husbands and wives. He says, “Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33, NASB).
First, Paul tells husbands to love their own wives. We all recognize that men and women are different. And that includes how husbands and wives give and receive “love.” Wives need to not only be told their husband loves them; they need to see it, to feel it, to sense it. Paul looks at the men of his day and says, “Guys, love your wives.” He then goes on to add “even as himself.” Love them the same way you want to be loved…fully, forgiving, forever.
Paul then gives some marital advice to the wives of the day, “and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” Again, men and women are different. Women want to hear and sense that they are loved by the husbands. But men are different. Men, though all tough-guy on the outside, really want just one thing. They want to feel like the hero of their home. They want to be respected…and that is exactly what Paul is saying in this verse.
Percy Sledge got it right when he said “When a man loves a woman, can’t keep his mind on nothing else; He’ll trade the world for the good thing he’s found.” Husbands, love your wives. Wives, respect your husbands. Both, make Christ the center of that forever relationship.