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  • Bundle up in your coats, scarves and gloves and get ready for a night of glitter and glam. Fayetteville/Cumberland Parks and Recreation is happy to announce the 3rd Annual Christmas in the Park Event.

    Just as in years past, everyone in town will be talking about the beautiful displays, the food, the shows and much more, when this event is over. The lights, the camaraderie, the chill in the air all come together to create a memory-making event. The Parks and Recreation staff wants everyone in Fayetteville and the surrounding areas to come out for a night and enjoy the light show along with lots of other special Christmas events. It will be a delightful way to spend the evening during this magical time of year.

    This event will be held Dec. 7-22. The fun starts at 6 p.m. and lasts until 9 p.m. each evening at12-05-12-christmas-in-the-park.gifArnette Park.

    “Admission into the park is $2 per person and it allows you to walk around and view the lights as you walk along the path,” said Erica J. Brady, special events coordinator, Fayetteville-Cumberland Parks and Recreation. Enjoy a leisurely stroll on the ½ mile paved walking trail while taking in the sights and sounds of the Christmas season. Along with the light show, there will be live performances on stage throughout the evening. The shows will display many of the talents and activities that are offered by our local recreation centers and Cumberland County Schools.

    Also, make sure to visit with Santa, as he will be there every night adding joy, cheer and laughter making it a festive time for everyone. For $5 attendees can even have a picture taken with the big guy. It is an opportunity to make great memories and start new traditions — or carry on old ones. There will be food vendors, arts and crafts, a fire pit and a train ride. For just $1, take the train ride to get a view of the sights that lay beyond the walking trail. The ride will be fi lled with even more Christmas scenery and good cheer.

    “The main focus of the event is out in the center of the walking trail. There displayed in the center will be a 30-foot decorated tree, surrounded by smaller trees and lights that will dance to the music,” said Brady. Whether young or old, this year’s Christmas in the Park will be fun for everyone in the family and offers plenty of opportunity to get into the Christmas spirit.

    Animals, other than service animals, are not permitted in the park. No personal cameras are permitted in the park. This is a cash only event; no credit/debit cards will be accepted. For additional information, call 910-433-1574. For inclement weather, call 910-306-7325.

  • 12-05-12-rotary-parade.gifThe 13th Annual Christmas Parade will be stepping off at 10:45 a.m. on Dec. 8, come rain, snow or shine. The parade is sponsored by the Rotary Clubs of Fayetteville, West Fayetteville and the Lafayette Chapter. According to Matthew Smith Jr., parade co-chair, the event has grown from 55 entrants in 2000 to 110 entrants in 2012 and this year’s event promises to be one of the best.

    The parade assembles at the Cumberland County Courthouse parking lot and will proceed down Person Street and turn onto Hay Street. It will pass the reviewing stand located in front of the Cumberland County Arts Council continuing up Hay Street and concluding at the train station. The parade route is approximately three-quarters of a mile and will not be crossing any train tracks. It is scheduled to be two hours in duration and will be broadcast live by Time Warner Cable News 14 and available on-demand two days later.

    “Over the past 13 years we have had several unique and interesting entrants. Of note, two come to mind. Two years ago there was a full complement of Star Wars characters and some of the costumes cost more than $1,000. The children screamed their appreciation. The Cumberland County Parks and Recreation Department had a float with spinning Christmas trees, water fountains and a cabin with smoke curling from the chimney. We are always curious as to what they will come up with next,” said Smith.

    There will be 10 high school bands represented and each year the Rotary Club invites the local elementary schools to select one student to ride on each of the floats. This invitation provides the child with ‘a-once-in-a-lifetime experience’ and a memory they will talk about for years. A parade could not be successful without volunteers and each year. Rotarack, the college-age Rotary auxiliary from Methodist University, has been essential in providing logistical support. Other volunteers come from a cross section of the city’s residents.“

    The parade has had its humorous moments. Several years ago a pick-up truck made it onto the parade route and drove in the opposite direction for the duration of the parade. There was also a man who snuck on to the parade route with a pony wearing poorly attached antlers. Neither were registered to participate. And of course, marching behind horses can be daunting so we had to insist that every entrant who used horses came equipped with a person armed with shovel and bag walking directly behind,” Smith said. “This has been a labor of love over the past 13 years and we are thankful for the continued support of the Cumberland County residents, businesses and volunteers. We look forward to another memorable event this year and after all, everybody loves a parade,” he added.

    For more information, visit the Christmas Parade website at www.rotarychristmasparade.com.

  • Mary asked the questions again and again while waiting for her lunch at a restaurant. Her eyeswere fixed on the centerpiece which included a printed list of the specials during the next three days, including Christmas. So every two minutes, she had the same request: “Please read me the menu. When is Christmas? When is Christmas?”

    Repetition is one of the common challenging behaviors of Alzheimer’s disease. Others include refusal, delusions (fixed, false,12-05-12-senior-corner.gifideas or beliefs), aggression, false accusations, wandering and agitation.

    Behaviors like constant and repetitive questions can try family caregivers to the breaking point. Alzheimer’s expert David Troxel confirms.

    “It’s a long haul,” he said. “It’s not an acute illness — the average length is eight years, but people can live with it for 20.”

    The following are approaches from the Home Instead Senior Care network’s free Alzheimer’s Disease or other Dementias CARE: Changing Aging through Research and Education Training Program to help families manage challenging behaviors like repeated questions:

    1. Redirect. The first time a question or concern comes up, take a few moments to answer the question fully and provide reassurance that all is well. If that doesn’t work, try to engage the senior in a related topic. For example:”Tell me about your favorite Christmas.” How about your favorite Christmas meal?” “What holiday do you like best?” Sometimes discussing the topic will lead away from the repetitive behavior and calm her anxiety.

    2. Utilize the person’s life story for ideas. The CARE program encourages caregivers to know seniors well. For instance, when a caregiver knows that the person loves country-western music or enjoyed quilting they can ask that individual about this new topic to “change the subject,” but in a meaningful and respectful way.

    3. Physically move the items or senior from the environment. If the menu, in this case, or the object, in general, continues to agitate or irritate, remove the senior or the object from that situation.

    4. Offer simple choices. Persons with dementia still want to feel in control of their lives. The CARE program teaches that one way to break a repetitive question cycle is to offer a simple choice. “Speaking of Christmas, Mom, would you like to serve turkey or lamb this year?”

    5. Apologize or take the blame. Apologizing or taking the blame in a situation (even if it’s not your fault) diffuses many situations. In this case, the family member can apologize for not understanding her concern or question and then try to move Mom away from her anxiety about Christmas plans.

    For more information about Alzheimer’s Care for a loved one call 910-484-7200 or visit www.homeinstead.com.

  • 12-05-12-ftcc.gifOur world is very competitive. Among the applicants for many jobs, a skill-set is not enough.

    Candidates who display a creative edge often rise to the top. Creativity is what solves problems and offers solutions to employers. Fayetteville Tech offers programs that rely heavily on creativity and the critical thinking skills that lead to success.

    The Fine, Performing and Graphic Arts Department contains four program areas and grants five degrees and two certificates. The Graphic Arts Department uses state-of-the-art equipment to prepare students for the workforce.

    An advertising and graphic-design degree is awarded as an associate of applied science. This two-year program is designed to give students the skill-set necessary to enter the workforce with contemporary knowledge of software and the technical abilities needed in today’s competitive market.

    The Digital Graphics Certificate is a two-semester, 14-credit-hour program used by graphic artists in the community to update their knowledge of current software used in the field.

    The Graphic Design Basics Certificate is a two-semester, 12-credit-hour program designed to give qualified high-school students the opportunity to earn college credit, giving these students an advantage as they enter post-secondary education.

    The Fine Arts Department awards associate in fine arts degrees in four areas of study. Every class in the four disciplines is fully transferable. The AFA prepares students to transfer to a four-year institution with a minimum of 65 credits, which includes many general university requirements.

    The AFA Visual Arts Degree, AFA Drama Degree and AFA music and music education degree offer a solid foundation of art for the student intending to pursue a liberal arts degree or a fine arts degree at a four-year institution or for the student who will transfer to a professional art school.

    The AFA/drama degree includes courses in acting, technical theatre, makeup, costuming, script analysis and lab courses in acting and production.

    The AFA general fine arts degree is a sampler within the fine-arts field. The program is intended for the student wishing to pursue a four-year liberal arts degree or a bachelor of arts or bachelor of fine arts. Students are required to take classes in the disciplines of visual art, dance, drama, music and creative writing.

    The Drama and Visual Arts program are active throughout the FTCC campus as well as in the Fayetteville/Cumberland County community.

    Our theatre program presents four productions a year, including a musical and a children’s show. Events are free to the public, and all productions have open auditions to offer anyone in our community the opportunity to experience live performance.

    Part of the visual arts program at FTCC is the art gallery, located directly across from Cumberland Hall Auditorium located at the Fayetteville campus. Eight to ten exhibitions are displayed throughout the academic year, including student work, artists from the community, and an exhibition of works by international artists.

    FTCC offers a plethora of options to promote creativity and enhance critical thinking skills to lead to your success!

  • Christmas Is in the Air and It Is on the Air!

    With the Christmas season in full swing, let’s take a look at some of the new music you might download and that you may hear over Christian radio.

    As you know, many Christian artists will introduce a Christmas song or two on a compilation project. This can lead to a full Christmas CD in the future. Well that future is now for Francesca Battistelli. She released a couple of singles over the past few years and for Christmas 2012 she gives us Christmas.

    Included in the mix of traditional and original tunes are “Heaven Everywhere” and “Christmas Is”. The pop/country/ballad sounds we have come to love from Battistelli are present and accounted for on this new album.

    Other new, full projects you will find this year are:

    Joy by Steven Curtis Chapman, which includes a fresh version of “Joy to the World” and several originals including “Christmas Time Again.”

    Christmas: God With Us by Jeremy Camp is an album full of can’t miss songs including a rockin’ “Jingle Bell Rock” and the extremely well-written title track.

    Christmas Stories: Repeat the Sounding Joy by Jason Gray who is always a clever song-writer. Gray doesn’t disappoint. Be listening for the radio single “Christmas Is Coming” from this one.

    It’s Christmas by Mandisa is an excellent mixture of up-tempo tunes and slower ballads showcasing the incredibly powerful vocals of Mandisa. “Somebody’s Angel” fits the ballad category to a tee.

    Noel, by Josh Wilson, showcases his ability as a wonderful singer/songwriter, but boy can he play that guitar — and just about anything else with strings! Highlights include a new version of the instrumental “The First Noel” and the brand new “Once A Year.”

    Also new this year are songs from

    • Sidewalk Prophets, “For King & Country”

    • Sanctus Real, Kari Jobe, Group 1 Crew, Hillsong and an EP from Mikeschair.

    Log in to your favorite online music store and download to your heart’s (or ears’) content!

  • 112812-wreck-it-ralph.jpgA Disney short, Paperman, appears before Wreck-It-Ralph (101 minutes). Maybe I am growing cynical in my old age, but I thought it lacked heart. I mean, for a love story, it wasn’t very moving. Plus, like all other Disney created female characters, the love interest is without agency and has a waist so thin she disappears when she turns sideways.

    The film is the latest in a series of films that show what happens when inanimate objects stop being polite and start getting real. Apparently, what happens is that they secretly run around, using plugs and fiber optic cables and digital whatchamacallits to conduct intergame travel through a central hub.

    The titular hero Wreck-It-Ralph (John C. Reilly) is in the midst of an existential dilemma. Every day, over and over, he wrecks a building, only to have the damage repaired by Fix-It-Felix (Jack McBrayer) while he is thrown into a mud puddle by the building inhabitants. He joins a Villain’s Anonymous group led by Blinky from the Pac-Man game, but upon his return to his own game realizes that everyone from his game is having a big anniversary party for Fix-It-Felix and he wasn’t invited. He shows up anyway and it doesn’t end well.

    Ralph goes rogue, determined to win the respect of the other avatars in the game by bringing home a gold medal of some kind. AWOL from his own game, he wanders into another called Hero’s Duty. His first run at the medal is cut short when game character Calhoun (Jane Lynch) catches him during a battle with Cy-bugs, so he sneaks back and grabs the gold, fleeing in a high-tech flying craft.

    Too bad a Cy-bug hitched a ride, and the plane caroms out of control, eventually crash landing in a game called Sugar Rush. If you’re going to be trapped in a fantasy land, one made of candy and soda pop isn’t a bad way to go. Except in this case the game is peopled with obnoxious Mean Girl archetypes possessed of both overly cutesy names and basic unpleasantness. Example: Taffyta Muttonfudge (Mindy Kaling) and her girly lollipop guild reenact the scene from Cinderella where the stepsisters rip apart Cinderella’s dress (but with a candy racecar instead of a mouse made dress).

    After Ralph crash lands on a fudgy mountain the Cy-bug escapes setting the B plot into motion. Meanwhile, back at the hub, Felix and Calhoun figure out that Ralph ended up in Sugar Rush and head into the game to get him. If Ralph isn’t back where he belongs by the next morning, the Arcade owner Litwak (Ed O’Neill) will shut down his game, leaving the inhabitants of Fix-It-Felix to beg for scraps in the Hub alongside the characters from Q*bert and Pong.

    Back in the A plot, Ralph meets a glitchy game character called Vanellope Von Schweetz (Sarah Silverman). She has been excluded from the races, but with the help of Ralph figures out a way that she can compete. This bit of the movie drags a bit but that’s okay because I spent this part of the movie dreaming about living in the game Sugar Rush and craving chocolate.

    Overall, Ralph has nostalgia appeal, loads of classic video games cameos and John C. Reilly in a starring role. It is very easy to understand why it’s getting rave reviews and making lots of money. I, however, did not really care for it. There’s nothing identifiably wrong with it, and I’m sure it can be enjoyed as a family film. Hey, any movie that puts Alan Tudyk back to work is ok by me! It was just missing the spark that elevates a half-decent movie to a really memorable movie.

    Now showing at Wynnsong 7, Carmike 12 and Carmike Market Fair 15.

  • 112812-tv.jpgOur cynical age will never be able to turn out a convincing movie about a Christmas miracle, like It’s a Wonderful Life. Filmmakers keep trying, though, especially in December TV movies. It’s refreshing that Finding Mrs. Claus (Sunday, 9 p.m., Lifetime) declines to play this losing game, instead embracing 21st-century cynicism. This is a comic tale of Christmastime greed, lust and phoniness, set — where else — in Las Vegas.

    Mrs. Claus (Mira Sorvino), who’s estranged from Santa (Will Sasso), comes to Sin City to help a lonely single mother (Laura Vandervoort) find true love. Sorvino is hilarious as a pure-hearted North Pole denizen who’s clueless about the sleazy world she’s landed in. “Who here is single and looking for love?” she sweetly asks a group of guys in a casino, not realizing that this question could be taken the wrong way.

    While Finding Mrs. Clausworks as a naughty satire, it also has a heart, thanks to Vandervoort. She communicates real decency, even in this corrupt setting. That’s about as close to a Christmas miracle as we’re going to get in a contemporary movie.

    The Hour

    Wednesday, 9 pm (BBC America)

    This British series rivals Mad Men as a period gem. The new season begins in 1957, amid talk of Sputnik and Mario Lanza. The setting is a TV news operation that produces The Hour, featuring a popular but unreliable anchor (Dominic West). Producer Bel Rowley (Romola Garai) rides herd on him, while new network bureaucrat Randall Brown (Peter Capaldi) rides herd on her. Brown insists that the program has lost its “tingle.”

    The Hourrevels in its time and place. It evokes 1950s England with a slinky jazz and rockabilly soundtrack, a rich palette and clouds of cigarette smoke. The costume department indulges in silky elbow-length gloves and mink stoles, not to mention stunning office wear for Garai. Speaking of whom: Why doesn’t this wonderful British actress (Emma, Atonement) have Kate Winsletscale stardom?

    As far as I’m concerned, The Hour has lost none of its tingle.

    Be the Boss

    Sunday, 10 pm (A&E)

    The creators of Undercover Bosspremiere a reality competition that focuses on ambitious employees. Each week, two of them vie for a promotion, learning only at the end that the winner will be granted ownership of a new franchise. In the pilot, employees Ashley and Jason are run through a series of entrepreneurial challenges by the Complete Nutrition chain.

    I’m worried that, with its ultra-competitive approach, Be the Boss will select for really creepy winners. Ashley and Jason are encouraged to ridicule and undermine one another. They must display over-the-top arrogance to gain Complete Nutrition’s approval. And they’re forced to submit to random orders, like showing up for an early-morning target-shooting session for no apparent reason.

    What kind of monster emerges as the victor in a contest like this? I predict a spinoff series called Legal Methods for Getting Rid of Your Psycho Franchise Owner.

  • Take a Musical Holiday this season and start a new family tradition with the Fayetteville Symphony Orchestra. On Saturday, Dec. 8, at 7:30 p.m. in the Reeves Auditorium on the campus of Methodist University, the symphony, under the baton of Maestro Fouad Fakhouri, will present an evening of musical selections from Broadway hits as well as holiday events.

    “We are really targeting families with this one,” said Christine Kastner, president/CEO of the FSO. “Our little friend in his red suit will be there, and we’re going to have the instrument petting zoo in the lobby starting at 6:45 p.m., so everybody can try out the instruments. We want this to become one of the holiday traditions for families to bring their kids.”

    The first half of the concert will feature music from Broadway hits West Side Story, Fiddler on the Roofand Les Miserables. “We are having several guest vocalists that night,” Kastner said. “We worked with the theater to try and fi nd some local singers. I think it will be entertaining for kids because they will be watching someone perform.

    “Ken Griggs, who just fi nished Around the World in 80 Days at the(Cape Fear Regional) Theatre, is singing with us that night. Then we’re having a soloist from Greensboro come in, Jason McKinney, and he will sing“Tradition” from Fiddler on the Roof. Halle Sullivan, a local Fayetteville girl who was Nala on Broadway in The Lion King a number of years ago, is also going to perform with us.”

    Additionally, Phoebe Hall, Paul Wilson and David Duke will join Griggs and Sullivan in performing a number of songs from Les Miserables, including “Bring Him Home” (Griggs), “I Dreamed a Dream” (Sullivan), “Master of the House” (Hall and Wilson) and “Stars” (Duke).

    Of course, no holiday music event is complete without a little help from the audience.

    “We’re doing the sing-along again,” said Kastner, “and the lyrics are in the program.” Concertgoers will enjoy holiday favorites such as “Silent Night,” “Joy to the World” and “Jingle Bells.”

    “Our goal with this concert is that it will be an annual family thing that you do to get ready for the holidays,” Kastner said.

    And that’s a holiday great gift to our community.

    Tickets for the Musical Holidayconcert are available at $5 for students, $20 for military and seniors 65 and older and $25 for adults. Children under 12 are free. For information or to order tickets, please contact the FSO at (910) 433-4690 or email info@fayettevillesymphony.org.

  • 112812lattice.jpgEach year staff at the Museum of the Cape Fear looks forward to the holidays. It’s a time to show an entirely different side of the Victorian lifestyle that is regularly showcased at the Cape Fear Historical Complex.

    From Nov. 20 to Jan. 6, the Poe House is bedecked in garland and decorations befi tting the stately home. The public is invited to tour the property to learn more about what Christmas was like in Fayetteville in the early 1900s. On Dec. 2, the Museum of the Cape Fear celebrates the season with a Victorian Holiday Jubilee.

    The Edgar Allen Poe House, named for the original owner — a brickyard owner, not the famous author, is the perfect place to showcase and celebrate the holidays — Victorian style. There were no infl atable Santa’s on the front lawn or colored lights in the windows. To many, the thought of these modern adornments at the Poe House seems somehow demeaning. No, this home was dressed in ribbons and live evergreens and berries. The Victorian Holiday Jubilee showcases not just the decorations, but the traditions of the day as well.

    “The decorations are up and ready to be seen,” said Leisa Greathouse, curator of education. “We have a special theme we do in the dining room every few years. It is a lattice filled with ribbons that hangs from the ceiling. It was a decorating idea that came out of Ladies Home Journalof the time period. Much like we look at the HGTV, Ladies Home Journaldid the same thing of the time period. It would have decorating ideas and tips.”

    It’s an impressive structure that requires more than a dozen people to assemble it.

    Enjoy some time with the family listening to The Coventry Carolers; scheduled to perform on the front porch at 1:30 and 3:30 p.m. The house, which will be festively decorated, will be open in between the concerts.

    “This is the first year the group has performed here. We are looking forward to having them.”

    Enjoy the tradition of holiday baking as Christmas goodies are made using the 1902 Glenwood Stove. “We use firewood in the stove. It takes real skill to cook on it,” said Greathouse. “You have to control the fi re enough to heat the oven on 350 degrees.”

    If holiday baking is not stressful enough, the volunteer who does the cooking uses a period cookbook.

    “We are fortunate that she loves it. She loves cooking and trying different recipes. They usually don’t have measurements, but will say something like ‘put in butter the size of a small egg,’” said Greathouse. “We use a cook book called What to Cook and How to Cook Itfrom 1912. It is a book that actually belonged to the Poes. We know they had this in their possession and probably cooked from it.”

    While enjoying the festivities, spend some time together in Santa’s workshop. Attendees are invited to make a paper elf hat for free or for a small fee make a wooden toy — while supplies last. The a wooden toy glider ($1), tug boat, race car, train or tractor ($3 each) will make a great momento.

    “I love the crowd we get —I am always impressed with the attendance and I love watching people enjoy the decorations,” said Greathouse. “Looking at the children’s faces is reminiscent of Christmas morning.”

    The Poe House is open for tours Tuesday-Friday during the week at 11 a.m., 1 p.m., and 3 p.m.; Saturdays on the hour from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. and Sundays on the hour from 1-4 p.m. Tours of the house are free. Call 486-1330 for more information.

  • uac112812001.jpg Many people don’t consider running a privilege. For them, it is nothing more than a part of a routine. But what they fail to realize is how amazing the simple act of running is. Just to stand takes more than 54 muscles, and running activates nearly every muscle in the body. Frankly, just waking up every day is incredible. Running is more than a simple evolutionary tool. It is an expression of life and health, something that many, unfortunately, cannot enjoy. Ryan Kishbaugh understood this, and he wanted others to understand it, too.

    Ryan’s Reindeer Run, a family-friendly 5K scheduled for Dec. 15, is a fundraiser for the Ryan P. Kishbaugh Memorial Foundation and a celebration of Ryan’s life. The slogan for the event is “Run because you can.” It was taken from the title of the book published by Kishbaugh, the namesake of the event.

    Many people look forward to the run every year as a way of kicking off the holiday season for their families, some even run together as a group. For many children this is the fi rst 5K in which they participate. It is fun because a lot of people dress in costumes, and Santa is there to hand out awards. Instead of regular medals, the awards are actually Christmas ornaments and the trophies are all reindeer themed. All participants under the age of 13 receive a finishers certificate and award as well.

    “The event has grown tremendously since it began in 2006. The first year 274 runners registered and net proceeds were $7,240.65. Last year, in 2011, 880 runners registered and net proceeds were $18,062.04,” said Ryan’s mom, event coordinator Roberta Humphries. “The money goes to various organizations that support children and people dealing with the diagnosis of cancer. The following organizations have benefited from proceeds raised through the Foundation: Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, Better Health, The CARE Clinic, Fayetteville Academy Writing Center, Make a Wish Foundation, The Child Advocacy Center, The Marrow Foundation, Duke Pediatric Bone Marrow Unit and Friends of the Cancer Center at CFVHS. Overall more than $83,000 has been given to organizations since the foundation was begun in 2003.”

    Kishbaugh was a high school senior when he was diagnosed with cancer. Before the diagnosis, he was extremely successful in many aspects of his life. He was a varsity athlete, and recognized as a dedicated and tremendous volunteer. It was after his diagnosis that he truly began to shine, however. Kishbaugh’s life was cut short, but he made more of a difference in his short life than many will make in several decades.

    In the face of his greatest challenge, Kishbaugh maintained a positive outlook and wrote the book Run Because You Can: My Personal Race With Cancer, which details his struggle with the disease. Unfortunately, Kishbaugh passed away at the age of 18 due to complications from a bone marrow transplant, but his words live on.

    “If you, at any point in your life, have changed somebody’s life, if you have made a difference in their life, in the world, then your life has been a success. People so often forget that money can buy everything except happiness. How did you make a difference today? What have you done to help a stranger this week? The answers to these questions are what truly matter in life, whether we realize that now or not. Life is so often overlooked, taken for granted, expected. Carpe diem. Learn to live in the moment, for that is all we have in our grasp. Take it upon yourself to go out and change the world for the better, and do it today,” is an excerpt from Kishbaugh’s book. It was written to be a positive infl uence on other people’s lives; an inspiration and a comfort for those facing similar challenges. The book covers 15 months of Kishbaugh’s struggle and is a beacon of hope and positivity.

    This book is not all that Kishbaugh left behind. After he passed away his mother began Ryan’s Reindeer Run in his honor, to celebrate his life and raise money to help others who are facing the same challenges he endured. All proceeds of this fundraiser go directly to the Ryan’s Foundation which is dedicated to providing services to children cancer patients.

    “The most rewarding part is being able to raise funds in Ryan’s memory and allow him to continue making a difference in the world through this event done in his memory,” said Humphries. “I also love to see Ryan’s friends who come back to run, now some of them with their children. When hospitalized in June 2002 Ryan wrote: ‘I don’t want anything more from this life than to know that when I die I made it better for just one other person. Just one. …I just want to reach someone, if only one, let me reach one person. I have to make a difference. I have to make things better, not for me, but for those who really suffer.’”

    The run begins and ends at the Medical Arts Pharmacy parking lot entrance, which is located at 101 Robeson St. Packet pick-up is the evening before the race, on Dec. 14, from 5 to 8 p.m. at Breezewood Healthcare, 200 Forsythe St. A waiver is required in order to run the race. The waiver and registration are also available online at www.runbecauseyoucan.com/ run.html. For individual participants there is $25 entry fee. The group and family entry fee is $75 and includes four T-shirts. There must be a minimum of three participants to qualify for family registry and a maximum of six. Groups should include the organization’s name on their entry form, and there must be a minimum of six participants to be considered a group. Registration forms must be received by Nov. 30, to guarantee a T-shirt and reindeer ears. T-shirts run out quickly.

    Online registration ends on Dec. 13, at 9 p.m. PST. Packet pick-up and race day registration begin at 7 a.m. The 5K race begins at 8:30 a.m. and awards will be presented at 9:30 a.m

    Officials ask participants to remember that runners under 13 are free if they are running with a participating adult, but this does not include a T-shirt or timing bid. Runners under 13 who wish to be timed and eligible for the under 13 top three male and female medals must be registered to compete. Pets on leashes are allowed, but must be controlled at all times, including waste clean up by the owner. Runners with pets may be asked to leave if the pets are causing a disturbance. Walkers, non-competitive runners with pets and strollers are requested to start in the back of the group.

    People that attend should expect a fun but challenging run. “I would like the public to know that this is a fun event for the entire family but it is also a very challenging run for the competitive runners,” said Humphries. “Walkers are also welcome to participate.”

    It is a great day to come out and “run because you can.” People who want to walk the course are also welcome to participate. Prizes are also available for the overall male and female fi nisher, first- through third-place fi nishers in various age groups, prizes for the best-costumed runners, best-costumed group, runners with strollers, runners with pets and the best-decorated strollers. This year there will be prizes for the runner with the best holiday sweater.

    People can also support the foundation without running by volunteering at the event, donating prizes or making fi nancial contributions. To volunteer, contact Humphries at robertahumprhies@nc.rr.com Visit www.runbecauseyoucan.com or active.com to learn more about this event.

  • 112812-allin.jpgThere is nothing quite like a wild sex scandal to rivet Americans’ attention, and — boy howdy! — does the military have our attention now!

    Recent years have brought us politicians of both stripes who paid bazillions of dollars to make their names and faces known to the American public and then, inexplicably, thought no one would notice when they had a little fling. Think the South Carolina Governor who told his staff he was hiking the Appalachian Trail and then boarded a commercial airliner with his American passport to visit his sweetie in South America. Think the New York Governor who patronized a highpriced call girl in a fancy but public hotel. Think our own former Senator John Edwards who fell for a girl with a camera trained on — guess who?! — himself! Now it seems to be the military’s turn.

    First came Army General David Petraeus, who not so long ago was a hero within our midst here in the greater Fort Bragg community, and his biographer, Paula Broadwell. Then came an entwined but murkier situation between Marine General John Allen and Jill Kelley. Both combos feature everyone married, everyone attractive and everyone successful.

    Throw in a couple of lesser light Generals — William “Kip” Ward, the former commander of the U.S. African Command, who stands accused of taking his wife on an $80,000-plus vacation at our expense and Jeffrey Sinclair, who has Fort Bragg ties through the 82nd Airborne Division and who is charged with such charming offenses as forcible sodomy, and it is clear that there is serious trouble in our military’s River City. The predictable investigations are already underway.

    No one could convincingly make this stuff up.

    Several thoughts occur to me about all this.

    The first is that all of us are human beings and we all have feet of clay in some regard, and that military life during two lengthy and unpopular wars comes with significant personal and family challenges. Secondly, women tell each other, “There is just something about a man in uniform.” That seems even truer if the uniforms come with lots of brass, as is the case with these decorated generals who have reached the stratosphere of military and governmental careers.

    Power, it is said, is the ultimate aphrodisiac, and it certainly seems a major factor in both our political and military scandals.

    That being said, these officers have been charged with the safety of our nation and of other people in other parts of the world. The decisions they have made in their personal lives cannot help but give us pause about the decisions they have made in our names.

    Another question has implications for each of us who communicates by email, which, as far as I can tell, is virtually everyone born since World War II and a substantial percentage of people on the front side of that dividing line.

    What is privacy and do we still have any?

    Once upon a time, privacy was an envelope with a sealed flap. It was a diary we kept in a locked drawer. It was a telephone conversation between two people, each holding a receiver with a cord attached to it.

    The Petraeus-Broadwell and Allen-Kelley relationships, whatever they really are, unraveled in public over emails the parties exchanged with each other. None of them apparently ever imagined that their emails would be scrutinized by no less than the Federal Bureau of Investigation or discussed in national and international media in all their “sweetheart” and “honey” glory.

    Most of us probably send and receive emails that would render other people into comas born of boredom. My own are generally among family members and friends, with the occasional communication regarding boards I serve on and appointments I have for meetings and other obligations.

    My emails allow me to keep up with those near and dear and to structure my schedule to avoid confl icts. While they are important to me, they are hardly intriguing, provocative or even interesting reading. I suspect many of yours are much the same.

    At the same time, my emails are mine, and I assume they are private.

    But they really are not.

    Modern communications are with us forever, unless one is technologically savvy enough to make them disappear. Otherwise, they linger on our hard drives and in cyberspace in case the FBI or someone far less intimidating, even mundane, decides to take a peek. I really do not think anyone is checking out my email and text communications, but I also understand the capability is there, as the generals in question and their special friends have learned so painfully and so publicly.

    The lessons in these sad messes seem to be two-fold.

    In this age of 24/7 cameras, celebrity watching and bigger than life public fi gures, it is not possible to melt back into the Average Joe whom no one recognizes and who can do what he or she pleases in anonymity.

    And, do not press the “send” button on anything you would not want your grandmother to read on the front page of The New York Times.

  • uac112112001.gif We’ve come a long way, baby! If you have been in Fayetteville for just a few years, you may not appreciate the changes and improvements that have happened in the downtown area over the past decade or so. Having never seen the rough and tumble version of Hay Street, it would be hard to imagine the area as anything other than the quaint and charming city center it is today. As good as things are now, there is still a lot of work to be done and the city is at a pivotal point in this development process that started in the mid 1990s — and that is a good thing.

    This process started when local landscape architect Robert Martin introduced a plan in 1996 that laid out ideas for improvement in the downtown area. The plan was called A Complete Fayetteville Once and For All.

    Then in 2002, the Fayetteville Renaissance Plan was introduced. It focuses on 3,000 acres that cover an area from the Cape Fear River to the Martin Luther King Freeway as well as Fayetteville State University. While many of us were busy going about our daily lives the past decade or so, the Fayetteville Renaissance Plan was being carried out around us, to the tune of $99,623,803, the majority of which was provided by private business ($58, 443,055). The result was 386 building projects including Festival Park, Linear Park, Freedom Park, thee 300 Block of Hay Street development, the Franklin Street Parking Deck and the Hope VI development. Now, the community has some choices to make about what needs to happen next.

    “We’ve exhausted some of the projects that were in the original plans,” said Jami McLaughlin, downtown development manager. “So much has happened that we really had no choice but to relook at things.”

    Since this is a plan that will effect everyone in Cumberland County, it only makes sense to put some thought into it. Where do we go from here? Well, that is up to you — the community. Studio Cascade, a consulting firm chosen by a committee made up of representatives from the Arts Council, the Downtown Alliance and city staff, has a few ideas to get the conversation started. The end result will be shaped by input from the community and interested parties.

    There are three visions that Studio Cascade has put forth for the community to consider for the next phase of development:

    Destination Downtown would develop the 3,000 acres with the intent of making it a place to visit, shop, eat and be entertained. The focus would be on business development and cultural destinations. Downtown would become an event-driven location with surrounding areas including commercial services and easy parking. The river district would offer scenic and recreational opportunities. In this plan FSU would still be a focal point with policies geared toward developing and capitalizing on the insititution’s creative potential. FSU would be considered the area’s “alma mater” and students would be sought as downtown residents and potential employees — even after graduation.

    Hometown Downtown envisions the area as a place with several living options intermingled with businesses and entertainment venues. Downtown would be its own neighborhood. Russell and Person Streets would have market-rate housing, grocery and commercial businesses. There would be a mixed-use neighborhood near the river connected to downtown via the walkable portions of Russell and Person Streets.

    Diversity Downtown sees an area embracing the many cultures and talents of the community. Downtown would be the core of the area with commercial and housing options along Russell and Person Streets extending to the river. This plan includes a loft-style mixed-use neighborhood, a focus on the neighborhood center near the old Orange Street School and a focus on making a walkable corridor along Russell Street and the Spivey School/Hope VI area. FSU would be incorporated into downtown through curricula and special programs designed to blend different parts of the city and celebrate diversity.

    Of course, the end result will likely be a combination of the three plans. If ever there was a time to contribute to the conversation, to educate yourself about where the city is headed, to make a difference in the shaping of your community, it is now. The planners, the developers,11-21-12-cover-story.gif the leaders in the community are all waiting to hear from the people of Cumberland County about what the city will look like 10 years from now.

    “We hope not only business owners and developers will participate, but customers, too,” said McLaughlin. “All of Cumberland County needs to have a say in this. This is their home town.”

    There are several ways to participate in the conversation and be heard. The first is to attend Storefront Studio at 100 Hay St. (in the Self Help building). From Dec. 4-6, the space will be filled with information, posters, maps and accomplishments thus far in The Fayetteville Renaissance Plan. Consultants from Studio Cascade, the firm that has laid out the potential plans for the future of downtown and the 3,000-acre development area, will be on hand to provide information, but more importantly, to gather information, insight and direction from people who stop by. There will be workshops, interactive events and resources that encourage each visitor to share ideas.

    “We are looking to generate creativity and input,” said Cascade Studio Consultant Bill Grimes. “We want people to come and talk to us. We want to include businesses, local citizens, the military community, investors, educators — you name it. This is an open conversation. We are looking to squeeze as much out of the community and ourselves as we can in these few days.”

    Storefront Studio runs from Dec. 4-6, from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. each day and with interactive workshops from 6-8 p.m. on Dec. 5-6.

    McLaughlin and Grimes both hope for a good turn out at Storefront Studio, as it offers a chance to ask questions and give and receive feedback. If that is out of the question, check out www.facebook.com/downtownfayetteville and participate in the survey to provide input. The survey is also available online at www.visitdowntownfayetteville.com through Dec. 6.

    For more information, contact Jami Sheppard McLaughlin, IOM Downtown Development Manager at 910-433-1599.

    Photo: The Fayetteville Renaissance Plan covers a 3,000-acre area that is being considered for further development over the next decade. 

  • Caring for Those With Dementia

    Seniors with Alzheimer’s Disease or other dementias should strive to continue to do as much as they can for as long as possible. And home might just be the best place.

    “The preferred environment for those with dementia is generally at home,” said Dr. Jane F. Potter, chief of the Division of Geriatrics and Gerontology at the University of Nebraska Medical Center.

    Dr. Potter served on the expert panel to help develop content for the Home Instead Senior Care network’s free Alzheimer’s Disease or Other Dementias CARE: Changing Aging Through Research and Education Training Program.

    The following, from Dr. Potter and the Home Instead Senior Care network, are tips on how to help family caregivers continue to engage older adults with Alzheimer’s in everyday activities:

    1. Allow seniors to do as much as they can but don’t expect them to do what they can’t. Give clear instructions which may mean giving instructions one step at a time.11-21-12-senior-corner.gif

    2. Simplify the task. When dressing, put that senior in a position to do as much as possible. Make it easier to dress, for instance, by laying out clothing in sequential order, with the underwear and socks on top.

    3. Start an activity and then ask the senior to help. If your mom has forgotten how to make that favorite family recipe, begin the process and have her help with whatever she can.

    4. Make activities easier or change the activity. If that older adult can’t play bridge now, play war or another card game instead.

    5. Remember, it’s more than just about task. Turn a bath into an opportunity to smell different soaps or, when picking out clothing, discuss fashion or special colors.

    6. Remember that exercise can help keep seniors active longer. They should get up and move more, not less.

    No matter what the activity, bring fun and happiness to the endeavor.

    “Laughter is great, and use plenty of it to stay engaged with a senior loved one,” Dr. Potter noted.

    For more information about the free Family Caregiver Training for family caregivers of seniors dealing with behavioral changes of Alzheimer’s and other dementias call 910-484-7200 or visit www.HelpforAlzheimersFamilies.com.

    Contributing writers, Martha Owen and Susan Guy, franchise owners of Home Instead Senior Care. For more information visit www.homeinstead.com/647.

    Photo: Home is the preferred environment for those suffering from dementia.

  • 11-21-12-ftcc.gifFayetteville Technical Community College dedicated its 50th Anniversary Sculpture during the August meeting of the board of trustees. Even though the addition alone of a unique sculpture to the college landscape is grandiose, the significance of the sculpture represents even more than the aesthetic presence at the 2201 Hull Road campus.

    The sculpture takes us on a journey that began with the passion and determination of Dr. Dallas Herring, known as the father of the North Carolina Community College System. Herring’s selfless public service and concern for all persons in North Carolina desiring higher education paved the way for ease of accessibility to affordable, high-quality education.

    The sculpture represents a vision for our community shared by a group of local business leaders from Fayetteville in the late 1950s and early 1960s who wanted a skilled workforce to meet the needs of business and industry and increase economic development.

    The sculpture represents the 50-year span of unwavering dedication and commitment of College leaders, such as Dr. John Standridge (first director), Howard Boudreau (president, 1963-1983), Dr. Craig Allen (president, 1983-1996), Dr. Linwood Powell (president, 1996-1997), Dr. Larry Norris (president, 1997-2007), Dr. Larry Keen (current president, since 2007), members of the FTCC Board of Trustees and directors of the FTCC Foundation, Inc., the caring faculty and staff members, and most of all, FTCC students in their quest for higher education and improved qualities of life.

    The sculpture represents a commitment shared and embraced by the citizens and business representatives of Cumberland County and surrounding areas who turn to the community college for expedient, customized, effective employee training in response to changing technology and workforce-related needs. These citizens and business leaders, in turn, serve the college in advisory capacities, as faculty and staff members and in other ways, ensuring that FTCC’s education refl ects workforce needs and additional opportunities for higher education.

    The sculpture, located in front of the Tony Rand Student Center, was designed and created by local Artist David McCune as part of the college’s anniversary celebration through the FTCC Foundation, Inc. Fifty galvanized steel pipes in various lengths and placed to form a circular, spiraling structure portray student growth in awards granted each year at FTCC over the past 50 years. The sculpture includes four glass-covered plates positioned parallel with the sidewalks around the base. Each plate contains information about the FTCC Foundation Board, Dr. Dallas Herring, FTCC historical information and information about the artist.

    FTCC President Dr. Larry Keen acknowledges the special meaning to the College represented by the sculpture: “The 50th Anniversary Sculpture visually illustrates the growth in students at FTCC over the past 50years. An interesting side note is McCune’s use of a design concept for the sculpture that is often referred to in educational institutions — the concept of STEM (science, technology, engineering and mathematics). The length of each pipe correlates mathematically with student growth at FTCC. It’s a visual display of how the school has served others over the past 50 years. And we at FTCC are truly honored to serve in this role that changes lives positively through education.”

    As FTCC crosses the bridge from its first 50 years into the second half of the centenary, the signifi cance of the 50th Anniversary Sculpture will become increasingly more meaningful. The sculpture will gracefully weather and endure as time passes but will always project the spirit refl ective of the first 50 years, standing tall and pointing upwards with great expectations for an even brighter future.

     

  • 11-21-12-nutcracker.gifBallet has been delighting audiences for centuries; it was first developed in the Italian Renaissance in the 15th century. Ballet is an art form renowned for the grace and beauty that its performers emanate after years of intense training. This December, audiences will have a chance to enjoy the incredibly skilled dancers from the North Carolina State Ballet as they perform the traditional Christmas tale, The Nutcracker.

    Fayetteville’s own Charlotte Blume, the artistic director for the North Carolina State Ballet, will choreograph The Nutcracker, the traditional two act and three scene Christmas ballet. Blume has been teaching and performing in North Carolina for more than 40 years. She is the principal teacher and choreographer of The Charlotte Blume School of Dance. Her work here has included such noteworthy productions as Raymonda, Painting of Degas and Swan Lake, which is annually preformed in the spring by her students.

    As a teacher, Blume loves the challenge of developing new talent and keeping tradition in tact while bringing newness to the performance each year.

    “I try to find talent that suits the part in each production and develop them into the part. It is a challenge because we try to keep the level of choreography professional. The dancers have to really come up to the challenge — and I like that,” said Blume. “Being a part of this performance each year gives me an opportunity to refresh the show every season. There is always something different, so people are getting a fresh look each year, which is important because we have a big repeat audience. Whenever people come to see this, they will see a refreshed look or see something they haven’t seen before.”

    This year The Nutcracker consists of a cast of 65 dancers and actors and features four international guest artists. The fi rst guest artist, Gabor Kapin, hails from Budapest, Hungary. He is a principal dancer for the N.C. State Ballet, and will perform the role of “Cavalier.” Kapin was trained at the Hungarian Dance Academy, but he is hardly a stranger to the North Carolina stage, as this will be his third performance with the N.C. State Ballet. Sokvannara Sar is a dancer from Cambodia, and will share the role of “Cavalier.” He was trained at the School of American Ballet in New York, but is also well versed in Khmer, a traditional Cambodian dance. He has worked as a soloist in the Pacific Northwest Ballet, and he is the subject of a documentary entitled Dancing Across Borders.

    Playing “The Sugar Plum Fairy” for her third season is Alicia Fabry who was raised in France. Fabry has studied ballet at the English National Ballet School, which is located in London. She has also performed with the Ballet Chicago Studio Company. Fabry will share the role with Margret Severin-Hansen who studied dance at Huntington School of Ballet in her home town of Huntington, Long Island. Hansen also studied ballet with the Royal Danish Ballet for six weeks. She has been a member of the Carolina Ballet since 1998.

    The Nutcracker will be performed on December 2 ,8 and 9 at the Crown Coliseum at 3 p.m. Purchase tickets online at crowncoliseum.com. Tickets cost $16 and military ID Card holders receive a $2 discount. They can also be purchased through the Crown Center Theatre Box Office, which is located at 1960 Coliseum Dr. Call (910) 323-5088 for more information.

    Photo: Alicia Fabry dances the role of The Sugar Plum Fairy in The Nutcracker.

  • Christmas is a special time of year filled to the brim with traditions. One of the most popular and beautiful traditions around America is the hanging of Christmas lights. People often cruise around town in the evenings to compare and observe the various festive displays. This year Lu Mil Vineyard is offering a different option for lights — its annual Festival of Lights.

    Located in Dublin, N.C., Lu Mil Vineyard is a 58-acre vineyard that was opened by the Taylor family in 2005. The vineyard was born out of innovation and has always been a site used to test new equipment and ideas. The vineyard produces muscadine wine, a grape native to North Carolina, but the gift shop and tasting facility is incredibly multifaceted and completely family friendly. The shop also offers jellies, jams, alcohol-free wines, juices, ciders, sauces, syrup and even grape seed extract pills.

    11-21-12-lu-mil.gifDuring the Festival of Lights there is even a country buffet. “The Country Buffet is also offered every night that the show runs at $10 (plus tax) per person. It includes several meats, vegetables, salads, breads, desserts, tea and coffee. It is first-come, first-served with no reservations taken, but a lot of times, last year, we would suggest to groups to be there to eat at 5 or 5:30 p.m. and they could all eat together that way and then do the light show after the meal. The later in the evening — and the season — the busier it gets,” said Denise Taylor Bridges, owner of Lu Mil Vineyards.

    The Festival of Lights is far more than just a collection of lights in the middle of a field. Bridges says “…the Festival of Lights is a drive-through light show with hundreds of thousands of lights synchronized to music to create a Christmas production for the entire family. Our vineyard is a beautiful place year round but it seems almost magical the way it is transformed into a winter wonderland with lights, music, the aroma of delicious food and our hot muscadine cider. For the kids, there is the candy store, Santa, muscadine slushies, animated figurines, the nativity scene and Kiddie Land, which offers great photo opportunities.”

    This is the sixth year of the light festival, and it has grown every year. “We opened the vineyard in December 2005 and decorated a few trees and just hung a wreath or two that year and added a few lights the next year. We found that people would come by the vineyard just to ride through and see how pretty everything was decorated for this wonderful time of the year,” said Bridges. “So the next year we added lights to some of the buildings, the grain bins, the bridge, added a few animated items, etc. and we have continued to add venues, cabins and other features at Lu Mil over the last few years and now they are part of the Festival of Lights. It grows every year … more lights, different scenery and music every year. Our newest addition is the candy shop. It is located next door to the General Store (where the Country Buffet will be served).”

    The show opens on Saturday, Nov. 24, and runs every Thursday through Sunday through Dec. 9 and nightly beginning Dec. 13 thru Dec. 23. The light show runs from 6 to 10 p.m. and the Country Buffet is open from 5 to 9 p.m. Admission is $10 per car (1-4 persons), $20 per van (5-11 persons) and $40 per bus (12 passengers or more). The vineyard also rents out a double-decker bus for $5/person with a minimum of 20 people in order to reserve it. Lu Mil Vineyard is located at 438 Suggs-Taylor Rd. Elizabethtown just off Hwy 87 in Dublin. For more information, visit www.lumilvineyard.com or call 866-5891.

  • 00-21-12-singing-tree.gifEvery year for the past 32 years, Snyder Memorial Baptist Church has been honored to bring the annual production, The Singing Christmas Tree to the Fayetteville Community. It has been a Fayetteville tradition since 1980; this year the production features 250 singers, two handbell choirs and a 40-piece orchestra.

    The spirit of Christmas will fill the room as singers from several generations come together to perform musical selections that will bring joy to everyone. The Intergenerational Choir is made up of 40-50 children, 100 teenagers and 100-125 adults. Your ticket will be honored up until 30 minutes before the show starts; there are no seat guarantees after that.

    This year’s theme is These Three Gifts, which will focus on the importance and significance of each of the three gifts of the magi as it explores the type of gifts we give for Christmas.

    “The structure of the singing Christmas tree is the same each year but the music and the theme is re-done every year. If you have been to one of the shows in the past, rest assured that you have never seen the performance that will be presented this year,” says Dr. Larry Dickens, minister of music at the church.

    Dickens is conducting his 14th production of this magnificent show. He is also an adjunct professor of church music at Campbell University Divinity School where he teaches his love of music to graduate students.

    “This event is a gift to the community and it is free. All we ask from everyone attending the show is to bring a few canned goods to be donated to two local food-distribution centers,” explained Dickens.

    There will be six performances and tickets are disappearing fast, so if you have plans to attend the performance this year, get your tickets soon.

    “A lot of hard work and commitment goes into making sure that the production comes together well. Volunteers from the church and the community come together and work overtime to make sure that everyone is ready to give their best performance,” said Dickens.

    There are several options for obtaining tickets. Tickets are available at the church office, Monday – Friday from 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Tickets can also be picked up in the church office on Sunday morning or you can call the church office at 910-484-3191 and request tickets be mailed to you. These tickets are going fast so get yours now.

    The singing Christmas tree only comes once a year and you don’t want to miss it. Performances will be held on Thursday and Friday, Nov. 29-30 at 7:30 p.m. and Saturday and Sunday, Dec. 1-2 at 4:30 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. Seating will be guaranteed up until 30 minutes before the show begins so arrive early. Grab your coats, your canned goods and your tickets, and get ready to attend the largest holiday performance presented in our area. Excitement is in the area so don’t be late because you don’t want to miss any of The Singing Christmas Tree.

    Photo: The Snyder Memorial Baptist Singing Christmas Tree has been a holiday tradition in the community for more than 30 years.

  • THANKSGIVING 201211-21-12-margaret.gif

    For as long as I can remember since the Precious Jewels came along, the Dicksons have celebrated Thanksgiving in Chapel Hill with family from all branches, friends and people who have become friends over the years.

    My first memory of this tradition involves toting a diaper bag for babe # 1, who is now a married man in his early 30s. My cousin’s house, which held the first of more than three decades of Thanksgivings for us, was later destroyed by a fire caused by a Christmas tree, then replaced by one on a lake, making for a memorable setting for a fall gathering almost every year. The annual cross-Piedmont trek to get there is a dear tradition, complete with a station wagon loaded with Thanksgiving foods and accompanied by sing-alongs to a Triangle radio station which plays the long version — all 18 and a half minutes — of Arlo Guthrie’s “Alice’s Restaurant” every Thanksgiving morning.

    Since the only certainty in life, though, is change, this year we are changing. We are moving the entire Thanksgiving production to the North Carolina coast, where we will be eating our turkey and dressing beside the lovely salt water and keeping our fingers crossed for good weather so some of our nearest and dearest can spill out onto the porch.

    Most of us are looking forward to the change of scenery, but it has prompted me to ponder what is most precious about these gatherings of people — some kin, some not — who have come to love each other.

    Beyond family, our little Thanksgiving band generally includes two retired and esteemed educators from the Triangle area and a young man who immigrated to the U.S., from what was then Yugoslavia, when he was 18. He, his Charlotte-born wife, and their two daughters are an integral part of our very American celebration. There have been people my father referred to as “connections,” not exactly relations but perhaps kin to relations or in-laws of relations; in other words, some connections not involving DNA. There have been relatives from Belgium and Austria, a man in full black leather motorcycle gear whose name I never knew, and once an Ethiopian family who played native musical instruments. This year, we have several new people coming — some from a branch of the family which has generally been to the other in-laws for Thanksgiving, and a single woman friend we invited for the heck of it.

    And then, there is the food!

    The Chapel Hill cousin and her Belgian husband always do the turkey, dressing with apples and walnuts and gravy, and this year a Precious Jewel is frying a turkey as well. There will be rice and mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes with marshmallows — a hold-over from the days of many young children that always seems to get eaten anyway, some green vegetables — I always cross my fi ngers for asparagus with hard-boiled eggs crumbled on top, yeast rolls, Kentucky horse-race pie along with other pastries, and, everyone’s fave, an ice cream turkey! I am also hoping for some scalloped oysters, but we have several wildly allergic diners, so we shall see.

    There will be hugs and kisses from people who have not seen each other since last Thanksgiving and some who saw each other last month. There will be displays of photographs, the occasional tiff and maybe a tear or two, and little ones either rowdy or screaming. One or two particularly full diners will grab a quick nap in a chair, overcome by the bounty of the occasion.

    A new tradition has arisen in very recent years, the brainchild of the Precious Jewel generation which has moved from running around outside to more adult fun. It is the annual Turkey Bowl, to which members of my generation are not invited. It involves the younger cousins and some of their friends going out either before or after the big day to — what else — Go bowling!

    I look forward to and treasure our Thanksgivings together, not because they are glamorous or special, because they are not. Our Thanksgivings, like millions of other Thanksgiving gatherings throughout our nation and wherever Americans might gather in far-flung corners of the world, are our family’s evolving way of celebrating and enjoying being together if only for one day a year and for being part of this great nation.

    It is our reminder that even in these trying times, we are grateful for so much. I am also grateful that Thanksgiving is a one day holiday that requires very little decoration since we all know what is about to overtake us next month.

  • 11-21-12-buzz.gifFeeling Thankful

    Christian music fans are thankful for new music from David Crowder!

    The band may no longer exist, but David Crowder is still making great music.

    He is back today with an exclusive new release, iTunes Session, recorded live at Capitol Studio in Hollywood. It features nine stripped down, organic tracks, including moving interpretations of David Crowder*Band’s “Let Me Feel You Shine,” “How He Loves,” “Because He Lives,” and a powerful take of “The Old Rugged Cross.”

    In an intimate behind-thescenes video, Crowder shares, “What I love about music is that a song can be in different packages or different environments, but the heart of it, the thing that connects a person to it, is still present. For these songs to have new skin on them and have these beautiful new voices contributing to them is a really beautiful moment.”

    Remember Audio Adrenaline? Well they are back, and boy are their fans thankful!

    Kevin Max, formerly of DCTalk takes over the lead vocal duties on the new album from Audio Adrenaline. “Kings & Queens” is “just an incredible song about this idea of when we love the least of these, God wraps these little orphans in his majesty and they can become kings and queens,” shares Mark Stuart. “It gives you that idea that these are God’s favorites, these little kids that have been forgotten. There’s going to be a special place in heaven one day because of what they’ve been through here. It’s just a triumphant, majestic song that just connects so deeply with Hands & Feet and the message of Audio A right now.”

    So what is the Hands & Feet Project? Five years ago, the band gathered in Hawaii along with their biggest fans for what they thought was their last performance. Since that emotional finale concert, founding members Mark Stuart and Will McGinniss have tirelessly worked to raise awareness and support for the 100 orphans currently being cared for in orphanages in Jacmel and Grand Goave, Haiti. The official music video for “Kings & Queens,” which was taped in Jacmel, Haiti at the Hands & Feet Project Children’s Village, showcases the beautiful children of Haiti.

    Everyone is thankful when some of the best worship music of 2012 is only $5!

    Passion: White Flagwas recorded live at the Passion 2012 conference earlier this year and includes radio hits “One Thing Remains” featuring Kristian Stanfill, Chris Tomlin’s “White Flag”, and “10,000 Reasons” by Matt Redman. Also included on this set of 14 acclaimed tracks is “Sing Along” featuring Christy Nockels. Worship.com says, “It’s no exaggeration to say there is not a single track on this recording not worth downloading and carrying with you.”

    Through the month of November, Passion: White Flag is only $5 on Amazon MP3!

    Photo: David Crowder

  • The Fayetteville FireAntz have gotten off to one of the best starts to open their season in team history and there are many who have noticed. Averaging more than 4,000 fans per game at the Crown Coliseum, the FireAntz are bringing exciting hock-ey action back to the ice in Fayetteville.

    The FireAntz have a lot of exciting games coming up and you’ll want to make sure to mark your calendar and bring your family and friends to the games.

    Thursday, Nov. 22: A Thanksgiving Tradition11-21-12-fireantz.gif

    There is much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving sea-son — family, friends and the FireAntz having a home game on Thanksgiving night. The FireAntz have hosted a game on Thanksgiving each season and it has become a Fayetteville tradition. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving day with your family and loved ones and then bring them all to the FireAntz game and cheer along with your FireAntz family.

    The best way to enjoy the Thanksgiving night game is to get cheaper tickets, of course. In order to do that, fans should get a group of family and friends, 10 or more people, and pre-order tickets from the FireAntz office. The savings are great and it’s just a little something extra to be thankful for during Thanksgiving.

    There is one other thing to be thankful for on Thanksgiving with the FireAntz. Long time rival, the Knoxville Ice Bears, will be their opponent. The former Southeast Hockey League (SEHL) foes have one of the longest rivalries in league history and when the two teams collide it’s always a really exciting time for the fans. In their only meeting on home ice this season the FireAntz beat the Ice Bears 4-1, in exciting fashion, in front of 4,341 cheering fans.

    Saturday, Nov. 24: Kids Night brought to you by Lee Hyundai

    The FireAntz are hosting Kids’ Night on Saturday, Nov. 24. The best part about it is that tickets for children will be free if they redeem their vouchers. Vouchers for free children’s tickets will be sent to schools in Cumberland County and, when redeemed, can be traded for free kids’ tickets to the FireAntz game.

    Adding to the theme of Kids’ Night is the fact that the FireAntz are having Mascot Night. More than 20 mascots from various sports teams, school and businesses will be on hand to entertain. It’s sure to be a fun night for kids of all ages.

    Saturday, Dec. 1: Military Appreciation, Operation Toy Drop Celebrated

    The FireAntz, once again, will host Military Appreciation night as they host another long time rival, the Huntsville Havoc. For the third consecutive season they will team up with military from Fort Bragg for the 15th annual Operation Toy Drop. Fans are encouraged to bring new, unwrapped toys to the game for donation to Operation Toy Drop — an airborne operation that collects thousands of toys annually for area children and families in need of a little help during the holiday season.

    Fans can donate toys even if they are unable to attend the game by dropping a toy off at the FireAntz office at 220 A N. McPherson Church Rd. or by visiting www.op-toydrop.net to find locations of local drop boxes.

    Many of the FireAntz corporate partners take part in the night and fans and season ticket holders always come out in large numbers to join them as they show their support to the men and women of the armed services for all of their sacrifices. Military Appreciation nights have, over the years, attracted the largest audi-ences and are guaranteed to be a great time.

    Make sure to come out to the Crown Coliseum and join in on the excit-ing season for the FireAntz this year. For more information on the FireAntz, or to purchase group tickets at a re-duced rate visit the FireAntz Website at www.fireantzhockey.com.

    Photo: Join the FireAntz for a series of fun-filled events this season.

  • uac111412001.gif For Laura Stevens, and the cast of The Heart of Christmas Show, the months leading up to Christmas are orchestrated chaos. Countless hours of rehearsals, set building, choreography changes and long nights lead up to two weeks of exhausting performances. The group puts on shows for local schools in addition to performing for the public the weekend after Thanksgiving. But at the end of the performances, no one remembers the exhaustion leading up to the production of The Heart of Christmas Show. Instead, they remember the laughter and love that are the essence of the show. And that’s what they hope their audience takes away as well.

    “When was the last time you really took a moment … stopped your hustle and bustle and took the time to celebrate the Christmas Season?” asked Stevens. “This show celebrates everything that is Christmas. From winter wonderlands to funny reindeer to tear-jerking songs of hope to the glory of the birth of Jesus Christ, the reason for the season, this show covers all the wonderful colors of Christmas!

    It is her belief that in celebrating those colors, Christmas remains the magical time it is supposed to be. And in Fayetteville, The Heart of Christmas Show is integral to the magic of the season.

    Celebrating its 14th anniversary, the show is a “full-blown, whistles and bells, Broadway-style production that has something for everyone!” If you’ve never gone to the show before, you need to fasten your seatbelts and prepare yourself for a full-on visual and auditory experience that will make you laugh and cry, all while reminding you that Christmas is really all about love.11-14-12-hoc-1.gif

    The first half of the show is humorous, and you will find yourself laughing, and maybe singing along with the cast as they take you on a trip down Santa Claus Way. The second half of the show portrays the true meaning of Christmas through deeply moving and spiritual songs that are accompanied by dance.

    Stevens explains that people come from all across the Southeast to see the show. For many, it is a family tradition, almost the starting point of their holiday season. For many, finding a show of this caliber in Fayetteville is mind blowing. The show has been compared to shows you will find in professional theatres in Myrtle Beach, S.C., Pigeon Forge, Tenn., and Branson, Mo. The show features a 36-member cast of singers and dancers. At its center are the beautiful and talented members of Voices of the Heart.

    The group started in 1998 as a teaching outlet for Stevens, a vocal performance coach. That year, she picked eight of her students between the ages of 11 and 15 to start the group. The next year, the group entered a national gospel competition and won the best overall award in a competition that featured more than 200 adult acts. That was the impetus for the creation of The Heart of Christmas Show, which features young performers who use their talent to help sick and abused children in the community. The motto of the show is “Children helping children.” This is an ethos the girls who are chosen to be in Voices of the Heart live day-in and day-out, as they keep a heavy touring schedule singing at churches, patriotic events, fairs and large gospel venues. Most recently, they helped kick-off the Community Concert series opening for the legendary Gladys Knight.

    11-14-12-hoc-2.gifThis year is one of change for the group, which lost a veteran member last year. This year the group has expanded its core, and Stevens expects great things. The group is led by veteran performers Rachel Crenshaw, 17; Hannah Godbold, 17; Katelyn Godbold, 15; and Hannah Pritchard 14. Joining the group this year are Taylor Bridges, 16; Kaylan Sinclair, 15; and Ashlyn Hall, 12.

    “These seven girls offer a rare thing... beauty on the inside as well as the outside. No doubt this will be an exceptional group in talent but it will be remembered as a good-hearted and kind group of girls who showed love and expressed kindness to all,” said Stevens. “They all have relationships with the Lord in ways that I am excited about for this group and for each of them. It’s hard to live as a Christian teenager in the current society and it is very difficult to pass and maintain the requirements of a VOH girl. Very hard. I applaud these seven precious young ladies in their efforts to live a lifestyle that shines bright for the Lord!”

    In The Heart of Christmas Show, the group is the central set of performers, but they are joined by other members of Stevens’ studio, as well as by dancers from the Linda Kinlaw School of Dance. Last year, more than 12,000 people came to see this fun, family event. And while many people come to the show for the entertainment, Stevens and her cast know it’s about much more than that. Last year, the show raised more than $32,000 to be distributed to different agencies that help sick and abused children i11-14-12-hoc-3.gifn the community. In years past the children’s programs at Cape Fear Valley Hospital and the Child Advocacy Center have been among the many agencies that have benefited from the proceeds of the show. In total, since its inception, the show has raised more than $350,000.

    Stevens knows that while people see the show as a holiday tradition, she has to keep it fresh and new every year. In 2011, the show had some new and exciting arrangements of traditional seasonal songs along with an unexpected but highly applauded Mary Poppins segment! As always, Stevens looks for ways to top the previous year and this year is no different, while the show will still contain some audience favorites, it will also offer some newly arranged songs and dance numbers.“

    There are some really cool openers and closers in the show,” said Stevens. “It should be a really exciting show.”

    11-14-12-hoc-4.gifThe cast promises that you will “laugh, cry and be in awe of the beauty and wonder of Christmas.”

    Stevens said that the show would not be possible without the help of the sponsors, who, even in the midst of economic hardship, have put aside money to continue in their support of the show. She noted that they have taken ownership of the show, and that without their generous giving neither the show nor the donations to charities would be possible.

    The show is on stage for public performances two days only: Saturday, Nov. 24 at 7 p.m. and Sunday, Nov. 25 at 3 p.m. Tickets are $12 and are on sale now at the Crown Box Offi ce, Hawley’s Bicycle World and Ticketmaster. For more information, visit www.heartofchristmasshow.com.

  • I have a newfound passion and initiative for helping the homeless. It is very disenchanting to see how11-14-12-h_&_h_stand_down_logo.gifmany homeless people live on the streets in Cumberland County. So on Friday, Nov. 16 from 9 a.m. until 2 p.m. at the VFW Post 6018 on 116 Chance St., the Fayetteville Cumberland County Ministerial Council, the United Way of Cumberland County and community partners will host the 3rd Annual Homeless and Hunger Stand Down.

    “The purpose is to bring nonprofi t organizations, churches and the community together to give information to those individuals who are in need and to make them productive members of society again,” said Bishop Larry O. Wright Sr., chairman of the Homeless and Hunger Stand Down. “Our goal is to serve 1,500 people.”

    Wright added that service to our fellow man in the time of need is one of the greatest services that we can provide therefore giving glory to God.

    The event will begin with an opening ceremony that will be attended by members of local city councils, county commissioners and organizations throughout the Cumberland County area. There will be 35 to 40 agencies who are responsible for everything from providing educational resources to helping individuals with job searches.

    Some of the organizations will provide free lunches, free haircuts, medical and dental assistance, prescription assistance, identifi cation services, child care assistance, VA and housing assistance, educational opportunities and other areas of need.

    The Salvation Army will provide a hot meal, with a goal of serving around 900 meals. This year a scholarship will be given to a homeless child.

    “We are going to give out clothes, coats, hats and gloves for the winter season,” said Wright. “The police department will be on hand to give out free bus tickets for those who are homeless and not residents of Cumberland County and want to get home totheir families.”

    The Piece Magazine will provide gospel entertainment for the event to provide an atmosphere of celebration and hope for everyone.

    There will be free transportation provided by the FAST bus system to and from the event.

    The Fayetteville Cumberland County Ministerial Council is well known and has been around for 53 years and has taken this outreach opportunity to another level.

    “I want the Fayetteville Ministerial Council to get involved in many more outreach events,” said Wright. “I want to be known for more than a bunch of ministers who sit around and eat and fellowship.”

    Wright added that they want to be known as a council that gets out in the community and works.

    For more information about the stand down, call (910) 568-4276 or send an email to healthelandmin@aol.com.

  • 11-14-12-christmas-carol.gifAs much a part of the holiday season as Black Friday, gingerbread houses and egg nog, A Christmas Carol has become a Fayetteville tradition that the community looks forward to each year.

    Like clockwork, the show opens the day after Thanksgiving. This year the show runs through Dec. 9.

    Written by Charles Dickens and published in 1843, A Christmas Carol tells the story of Ebenezer Scrooge. A selfish and stingy businessman, Scrooge is visited by the spirit of his deceased business partner Jacob Marley and the ghosts of Christmas Past, Christmas Present and Christmas Yet to Come. These visits shake Scrooge to his core and bring about a change in him — one that affects many lives.

    This is the first season that Artistic Director Robyne Parrish is taking part in this tradition and she says that the audience is in for a little bit of a surprise this year.

    “We are revamping it this year … we are trying something new,” said Parrish. “We brought in a guest director from the New York/Pittsburgh area, his name is David Little. We are trying to do something different this year. We have a great cast and expect this to be a wonderful production.”

    Little is playing his cards close to his chest, but did share a little bit about some of what the audience can anticipate.

    “We were looking for a way to reinvigorate the production,” said Little. “We are using the same script but we have reimagined it as if it were a 1940s radio play. There are a few surprises in addition but none I want to share.”

    The play opens with a group of actors in the 1940s at a second-rate radio station. They are producing a radio version of A Christmas Carol, and the show takes off from there.

    “I am looking forward to seeing how the audience responds,” said Little.

    The Board of Directors at the Gilbert has been doing this a long time and this is different from what they’ve done in the past. Some actors are the same as in past performances, but this year the approach is different and Little promises that there are some nice surprises in store.

    “It has been fun to work on this process. As a director and a story teller, I love the challenge,” said Little. “This story has been told so often and in so many different ways that it is fun to work on a production that is new and different from what I have seen and done in the past. That is really fun for me.”

    While Little hails from Pittsburgh, Pa., he frequently works in New York City. He says he is impressed with Fayetteville and the work going on at the Gilbert Theater.

    “I would say I have been really impressed with the Gilbert Theater. They seem to be making big changes and strides forward creatively and artistically. I find that really exciting,” said Little. “I am impressed with the cultural fabric of this city and the place that the Gilbert has within the city and the fact that Robyne (Parrish, the artistic director) and Jeremy (Fiebig, the managing director) and their board of directors seem to have a high priority placed on quality and really developing relationships with the people that they work with.”

    The play opens Nov. 23, and runs through Dec. 9. Visit www.gilberttheater.com for show times and ticket information. Reservations are highly suggested.

  • It’s never too early to celebrate the Christmas spirit and do some shopping. What better way to do both than to take a trip around the world to observe Christmas traditions and eclectic gifts? Now, we know most of us don’t have time to take an actual trip around the world, but on Nov. 17, Cornerstone United Methodist Church will host the 12th annual Christmas Around the World from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. By attending the event, you can get a taste of the world without ever leaving home.11-14-12-world-ornament.gif

    This year’s event will be different from ones held in the past according to Robin Berg, event chairperson.

    “This is the first time we have done the event on such a large scale. There is a multi-cultural focus on this year’s event. We plan to have more than 50 vendors representing numerous cultures. The music and entertainment will be diverse as well,” Berg explained.

    In years past, the event was primarily a bazaar, but this year it has grown into a multi-cultural festival. Entertainment will be provided throughout the day by the Phillipino Dance Troupe, Voodoo Tattoo (classic rock), Groupa Compartiendo Vida (Hispanic Praise Team), Until November Band, Okinawan Dance Troupe, a gospel band and three other local bands. In addition, the Cornerstone choir will sing.

    Vendors will be on hand selling unique merchandise and foods from around the globe. Lip-smacking lumpia, tantalizing tacos and bountiful barbeque as well as other ethnic dishes sure to please the palette will be available. The Cornerstone youth group operates a specialty coffee shop named Blessed Brew and will offer lattes, cappuccinos and regular coffees throughout the day.

    There will also be pastries available to enjoy with coffee and baked-goods gift packages available for purchase. Additional events planned include a silent auction and pictures with Santa. The pictures will be available immediately after sitting. There will free shopping bags available for the first 500 attendees.

    Children will have their own entertainment area as well. Five “bounce houses” will be provided in addition to slides and games. There will also be cotton candy, sno-cones and popcorn. This is a great way for parents and children to enjoy the event, leaving parents free to shop at their leisure knowing their children are in a fun, safe and caring environment.

    “We felt it important to provide outreach on a larger scale,” said Berg.

    “This year, 25 percent of the proceeds of the event will be given to the Wounded Warrior Battalion. We are moved to help support the soldiers and families who have sacrificed for us all and are experiencing difficulties in their transition,” Berg said.

    Christmas Around the World will take place at Cornerstone United Methodist Church located at 1411 Rim Rd. in Fayetteville. Parking is available at the E.E. Miller Elementary School, which is adjacent to the church. For information, visit www.cornerstoneumconline.com or call 910-868-5686.

  • Methodist University’s Office of Career Services has launched a new program with several partners, called the MU Exclusive Internship Program.

    The program, led by Director of Career Services, Antoinette Bellamy, was unveiled at a luncheon Oct. 25.

    “This program underscores our commitment to provide every student with an internship opportunity,” said President Ben E. Hancock Jr.

    Coinciding with President Hancock’s goal of creating 100 Partnerships, organizations who are in the MU Exclusive Internship Program will partner with the university to offer ex-clusive internship opportunities to MU students during the 2013 May Term. Several companies are already signed on with the program, including N.C. Department of Environment and Natural Resources, Fayetteville’s Public Works Commission (PWC), Spring Lake’s Mayor’s Office, U.S. Army Special Operations Command and Microbac Laboratories.

    “By partnering with organizations like these, that understand the complexities of the job market and are willing to assist MU students advance professionally, the MU Exclusive Internship Program will help fulfill the university’s promise to prepare students for productive careers and lives of meaning and purpose,” Hancock said.11-14-12-methodist.gif

    Bellamy said her office will work to recruit students for positions based on criteria provided by the partners, screen prospective interns and require students to meet with her staff in one-on-one sessions to prepare them for entering into a professional working environment.

    “The MU Exclusive Internship Program provides students the opportunity to gain valuable work experience,” Bellamy said. “Students will be able to develop entry-level skills in a specific occupation, and practice the basic career management skills necessary to obtain, sustain and advance in their fields.”

    Learning is also an aspect of internships, and students interns are expected to meet several learning outcomes, such as developing job-specific competencies, exploring their chosen career field, gaining a broader knowledge of the organization and developing their personal and interpersonal skills like communica-tion, self-confidence and assertiveness.

    In their internships, students will get a 3- to 10-week experience during the summer to work at least 100 hours or longer during the regular academic year. The internships will come in many forms, part-time or full-time, and could be paid or non-paid. All of the internships will include learning objectives, observations, evaluations and assessments.

    In return, the partner organizations will have the opportunity to bring new perspectives to their business, gain quality and motivated candidates for special projects, manpower to free up their normal employees for other projects and tasks and a cost-effective way to recruit and evaluate potential employees.

    “Research shows that 60 percent of students who participate in paid internships are more engaged in projects and the organization,” Bellamy said. “Since students must be able to sustain themselves, we encourage paid internships. However, we do understand that some partners are unable to make such a financial commitment.”

    Whether paid or not, Bellamy said her office encourages students to con-sider the benefits of the experience. As an additional benefit for students, the experience will be listed on the student’s co-curricular transcript.

    Businesses can register as an MU Exclusive partner and post intern-ship positions online at collegecentral.com/methodistuni-versity. For more information on how to become an MU Exclusive partner, contact Antoinette Bellamy at 910.630.7257 or abel-lamy@methodist.edu.

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